In this episode Per talks about her own scars from childhood trauma and how it is so important to acknowledge these quirks, pathologies, and preferences as important to overall feelings of comfort and safety. From there she goes into ways of accommodating these scars both directly and indirectly in order to make the most out of foreign, different, and sometimes scary environments. This episode is on the longer side so feel free to sit back and listen to it all at once or to take it in in pieces, Pers doesn’t mind.
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My advice blog at www.starvedfor-help.tumblr.com
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I just posted something new to Anchor, a podcast episode on my thoughts on the treatment of migrant children in America. It’s not really mental health related (although the abhorrent treatment of these children definitely will scar them mentally. Please take the time to listen and we can have a constructive discussion.
https://anchor.fm/personallyborderline/episodes/The-Inhumane-Treatment-of-Migrant-Children-e1mjp6
This week’s episode is about eating disorders and mostly about disordered eating habits. I uploaded it yesterday but it was super late so I didn’t get to promote it.
I have disordered eating habits, not an eating disorder, these habits are indirect side effects of my mental illnesses and they do present problems throughout my everyday life. This is where I talk about that and how it’s important to recognize problem behaviour even if it isn’t diagnosable or a disorder, it’s still important.
Let me know if you’ve listened and you like it, also let me know if you’re one of the 20ish people who have listened up until now because it’d love to say hi to people who catch my episodes right when they come out!
Twitter: https://twitter.com/PersBorderline
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Website: http://personallyborderline.com/
Support the show: http://personallyborderline.com/support
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New podcast/blog post combo out today in which I talk about how I am not unproblematic in the blog and talk about my 2017 reflections in the pod, excited to close out this year and move on to bigger and better things!
I don’t really do resolutions but what are all of your resolutions ? I’d love to hear them!
Twitter: https://twitter.com/PersBorderline
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Website: personallyborderline.com
Support the show: personallyborderline.com/support
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So I ran into some trouble with some friends and Secret Santa planning. I personally don’t enjoy gift giving that doesn’t include gift lists, that’s because I’m both picky and a control freak.
Since today is the first day of 12 days of Blogmas and it’s the holiday season, I decided to kick it off with a post about gift giving. In this I highlight the perspective of a gift receiver who isn’t interested in your great, innovative, perfectly-planned gifts but would rather you just choose one of the 5 gift options on their yearly pre-approved gift list.
The link to take you straight to the article can be found on the Instagram profile page!
No long drawn out microblog to introduce this week’s episode, in which we talk about what mental health really means and the differences between mental health and mental illness. If you need new points to argue that mental health is truly real and important or if you wanted to learn about mental health and it’s validity (along with some nice and tidy comparisons to physical health), come on by and listen to this week’s podcast.
Where can you find the full podcast? All my stuff can be found on my website personallyborderline.tumblr.com My podcast can be found at Anchor • Apple Podcasts • Google Play • Overcast • Pocket Casts
It’s a difficult thing to sit with. Victims of trauma, abuse, and/or assault know it all too well. The things we see, the things we hear, and the things we feel root themselves forever in our minds. We etch angry words onto the marble of our hearts and we analyze every twitch or sigh of our loved ones, infinite branches of reality stretching before us. Did they sigh because they’re angry, because they’re tired, or because they’re getting tired of being with me? These are all viable options, but each with a different set of complications and reactions. Someone who reacts to a tired sigh as if it were a “they’re getting tired of me” sigh may serve to push a relationship further towards separation.
For those of us who over analyze, who maybe had to learn to analyze the minor changes in posture, expression, and tone of voice to survive, bring these habits with us everywhere we go. We internalize and assess every fidget, breath, and word of our friends, significant others, coworkers, and superiors. While a survival mechanism, this approach is ultimately detrimental since the only thing to do after analysis is come to a conclusion, but coming to the wrong conclusion can create more problems than it solves.
The solution here isn’t to stop analyzing, but to stop remembering in general. The solution is to learn to forget, to learn to let words roll off of our shoulders until even just the gist of what was said is a vague memory you have a few days past. To learn to allow other people to be in your space without questioning whether a deep sigh and averted eye contact is a subliminal sign that you are being boring, or annoying, or hard to deal with. To forget, to lose the habit of being able to quote the exact phrasing someone used to insult you two years ago, is to allow yourself to be human. To allow yourself to live in the context of how you want to fit into this world and not within the context of how you fit into someone else’s. Once you forget how to remember every detail of someone else’s reaction to you, you give yourself the ability to act outside of the confines of how another person deems it acceptable for you to act.
It’s a call that no one wants to make and no one wants to receive, it’s a lunch date where you both know you’re going to get personal, or a dark humour joke gone awry. Whatever the catalyst, sexual assault and harassment is more prominent than we’d like to imagine in society and many of the people around us have their own unique story. What happens when they decide to share their story with you?
That’s the topic of this week’s podcast episode, sexual assault and how to address it when someone you know and/or care about comes to you with their story. I cover many topics and a variety of angles in an attempt to give a comprehensive list* of do’s and don’t’s when trying to help a friend (or maybe just yourself) through a horrifying and dark time.
Read the full summary on my new blog medium.com/@persborderline, as well as a written version of the episode’s thematic question/comment which is:
What advice would you give to someone who is supporting a friend through recovering from sexual assault (or any time of loss/grievance/and hardship)? What’s the best advice you’ve given or, conversely, what’s the best advice that’s been given to you?
Where can you find the full podcast? All my stuff can be found on my website personallyborderline.tumblr.com My podcast can be found at Anchor • Apple Podcasts • Google Play • Overcast • Pocket Casts
Crisis Links
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Suicide and suicidal ideation are not something to take lightly. Please protect yourself and those around you at all costs; you matter, and you and your life are worth everything. Stay safe, and stay here if you’re in crisis. Below are some links to help you if you’re currently unable to help yourself.
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-(800)-273-8255
(here’s a link to the chat if you’re uncomfortable talking on the phone)
Click here for a list of US statewide suicide prevention lines.
Click here for a list of International suicide prevention lines.
If you are not in immediate danger, but you still feel like you’re in crisis mode, check out some of these links:
Alternatively, check out this list of things that help me when I’m in crisis:
- Play with play dough or slime (if you don’t have any, make some!)
- Look at cute animal videos or photos (a simple Google or Youtube search)
- Color in a coloring book (or using a printed-out coloring page)
- Listen to soothing music (here’s a playlist)
- Make some tea (I recommend Yogi Honey-Lavender tea if you can get some)
- Do some paced breathing (ex. breathe in for 4 seconds, hold 1, breathe out 7)
- Splash cold water on your face while holding a short breath
- Take a hot OR cold shower
- Put on some soothing lotion (lavender scented is great for anxiety-reduction)
Life is tough, but you are tougher. I know you can pull through. -Zoe
mental-health-recovery:
With World Mental Health Day coming soon, here is some important information about BPD, a disorder that is not talked about enough.
